I’m thrillled to come your way once again with a very timely fully packed piece of writing on the autopsy of marriage. The word autopsy, is a medical term with synonyms such as post mortem examination or necropsy. An autopsy (post-mortem examination, obduction, necropsy, or autopsia cadaverum) is a surgical procedure that consists of a thorough examination of a corpse by dissection to determine the cause, mode, and manner of death or to evaluate any disease or injury that may be present for research or educational purposes. Just that in our case, we’re not surgeons but rather life therapists and our corpses this evening are the broken homes and marriages. Just like all our other writings, this is also research based and structured to portray our style of writing, the essence of this is not just to impress you but to impact you, not just to challenge you but to charge you to take action and not just to tease you but to transform you. Read and be bless but don’t forget to leave your comment in its section below and share this content with a love one.
Believe me my brothers and sisters, a dissection of the various divorce cases laid before us reveals that from the husband/wife showing infidelity to the abusive husband, from the intolerant wife to the irresponsible husband, spanning through the unsubmissive wife to the uncaring husband, all, not even one is left out, craves to have a happy and a peaceful home. This observation outrightly rules out the the thinking that the desire to have a happy home guarantees it. Another ventricle reveals the fact that most divorcees sign their divorcement letter saying, but I still love him or her. For instance when Kim Kardashian was interviewed by Oprah Winfrey on her marriage that lasted for only seventy two hours, she made the remark, “he’s a good man and I will always have a place in my heart for him”. This shocking realizations confirms the fact that, Love is not the foundation for marriage: Love doesn’t make marriage work. Love doesn’t keep marriage together. I know that shocked you but the fact of the matter is that that you loved someone doesn’t make him or her your suitable help mate.
You see, when you look at the billionaire divorce of Jeff and McKenzie and the scripture quoting divorce of many ministers of the gospel,then don’t suggest money or church as the glue that binds marriage together. Not excluding the joke cracking separation of many comedians and the rapping divorce of many musicians, then your guess is as right as mine, fun, music and jokes are certainly not the hack for marriage. The statistics shown that first marriages have 50% chances of ending in divorce, 64-65% of second time marriages end in divorce and about 75% of third time marriages end in divorce. And I’m like wait a minute, I thought they said experience is the best teacher😸. Hello there, experience helps but experience can never be the best teacher, the stats showed us experience is not necessarily a guarantee for competence, and also, your tolerance of pain decrease with time.
I know by now you might be wandering, ‘who then can be saved?’ Don’t worry, we’ll get through this. Let me use the next chapter to explain why I hate divorce so badly, you will too shortly.
You have to understand that the human body is a complex amalgamation of memories-genetic memories. The shape of your nose is the genetic memory of your mother or father or a distant relation, your height is the memory of someone, so just get it that you’re are a walking amalgamated memories. The memories that we form through our five senses with that of sight and touch being most profound, don’t only have emotional and cognitive impact on our lives but more importantly a physical adulteration of our being. So when you walk with someone intimately revealing all your deep secrets to him/her. Having intercourse, and for worse raising children, the memories you’ve built with them don’t only have emotional and psychological connection with you but a physical one also. And the problem is you can have an emotional turn around quite easily but the physical doesn’t occur that easily at all. Divorce is an attempt to reap a memory off. The mind can turn around easily and do that but the body can’t. Divorce essentially means you’ve chosen to kill some part of you. So when you said ’till death do us part’ you were right, unless a part of you dies, his/her memory still lurks. OH WHY DO I FEEL SOMEONE MISSED THIS🙋. Thus why God is so much against divorce because it is not something that you can do away with by just signing a document or giving a certificate of divorce. Indeed,”in the beginning it was not so”
I know you’re thinking, ‘we love each other so much, divorce is out of our dictionary “. But wait a minute. Research has shown that if anyone in your close circle(families and friends) had a divorce, you have 75% chances of experiencing divorce and if anyone in your second close circle(like a friend of a friend) you have 33%, chances of divorce. Yeah you’re right, divorce is a contagious epidemic. Thus why you can’t just stay unconcerned, because the antidote to a plague that affects many is preparation through knowledge
The article is getting quite long and we thank God we’ve succeed after our autopsy in finding things that are not actually the hack to staying together. The aim of an autopsy is not to resurrect the dead but to find possible causes and propose a panacea to avoid future occurrence. Keep your fingers crossed even as we bring to you in our next edition the real causes and the possible ways to avoid this social epidemic-divorce. Thank you.